August 10, 2022

Be Proactive

Being in the work world would be so easy if we didn’t have to work around people! There is Angie the supervisor who is always micromanaging your work, even though you could do her job and yours together. There is Sarma who is nice to your face, and then you hear the untrue things he is saying behind your back to colleagues. There is the governing body over you who puts forth some stupid rule that makes your job ten times harder. When you string a few of these people into your day, on top of all of the personal challenges you are dealing with and you start to wonder why people can’t just get out of your way and let you do your job.

Well, maybe no one feels this way and I just outed myself. Gulp, embarrassing! On the off chance there is at least one other person out there that feels this way, I came across a book my Dad gave me 25 years ago - The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey. After having one of those days described above I came across page 93 and these words of advice that pierced my complaining like a pin in a balloon:

Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.

Try it in your marriage, in your family, in your job. Don’t argue for other people’s weaknesses. Don’t argue for your own. When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn from it - immediately. Don’t get into a blaming, accusing mode. Work on things you have control over. Work on you.

Look at the weaknesses of others with compassion, not accusation. It’s not what they’re not doing or should be doing that’s the issue. The issue is your own chosen response to the situation and what you should be doing. If you start to think the problem is “out there,” stop yourself. that thought is the problem.

Wow, can you imagine if your entire work team put into place the above thought? Think of the strength of the group, the accomplishments, and the support that could achieve. Our goal are teams that work like this, which requires each individual to act different, even on hard days. A big lift, but possible.

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